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Friday, September 24, 2010

Seasons of Grief

There is a time for everything,
and a season for every activity under heaven.

Ecclesiastes 3:1

This is the time of year that I love most. The cool, crisp air of autumn replaces humid summer heat and all things fall fill my home. The season makes way for some of my favorite and yummiest treats. Pumpkin bread. Hot chocolate with marshmallows. Chili. It's comfy, cozy sweatshirt weather and a time to open up the house to listen to the crunching of the leaves outside my window as I snuggle up to read a good book. Fall is my favorite!

Yet, as we head into this time of year, I can't help but think about what lies ahead...all those special days that are soon to come. It may be early to be thinking about the holidays, but my heart has gone there many times already this season. If you've experienced loss, then you know that the holidays can be tough. If you experienced recent loss, you may be anticipating a difficult holiday season. Others of you may have not have even considered this yet. And if that's you, brace yourself sweet friend.

This fall, I was expecting to be dressing a little one up in the family pumpkin costume. My oldest child wore it as an infant, as did his now 2-year-old sister. This year, however, there will be no little pumpkin in our house because Riyah Mae went to be with Jesus last November. Hence, another day to anticipate. November 5th, the day she went to be with Jesus. What will I do that day? I may very well feel like staying in bed with a warm cup of coffee and all things sweet to snack on between the tears. I commit to do something more. Something to honor her. Something with significance to demonstrate that her life, though brief, was significant. It will be difficult, this I know. Thus is the nature of these seasons of grief.

Yet, here we are. No ability to turn back time and no way to stop those specials days from coming. Rather than dread them, let's will together to have an embracing heart! We can choose to turn them into opportunities to bring glory to our God.

So in this season of celebration, yes celebration, what will you do?


Nichelle said...

We support a child our son's age, and buy Christmas gifts for them...toys, candy, clothes, books...all things we know we would be sharing with him if he were here...helps to share and bring happiness to another child in honor of him...it brings a little peace and joy in our hearts. Can't wait to see what others do so we can think of other ideas of things to do as those special dates arrive.

Rachel B said...

Nichelle, that is such a terrific idea! What a wonderful way to honor your son AND help others!! So special! <3